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Losing sight of what it’s all about

by | 19 March 2016 | Lifestyle & Relationships

You’ve got invitations to send, a food tasting session to attend, a dress-fitting, and a Hen/Stag do. You’re over budget, out of time and the stress is mounting as the days are counting down to the biggest day of your life. Some people thrive on this sort of pressure, others crumble, but whether you’re powering on or having mild panic attacks every five minutes, it’s important to take a minute to breathe, and remember, if only for a moment, what you’re doing this for. Here’s a hint, if the word “love” didn’t just pop up in your brain, you may want to reprioritise.

What It’s Really About

It’s all too simple to let things spiral out of control. It happens to the best of us – we lose sight of what it’s all really about (it’s worth noting that this doesn’t just apply to marriage. We often get caught up and stressed out by things that are smaller than what life is really about).

Call me old fashioned, but I believe marriage is about love. I know a lot of people do it for financial reasons and because “it’s just what you do”, but I think you’ve got to mean it. Sure, it’s nice to have a big party, and while I wasn’t always pro-marriage, I think that it should be love that changes that.

All You Need Is Love

Big beautiful weddings are great. But what are the best bits really? Sure people will be talking about that beautiful dress for years to come, but isn’t it the feelings that truly remain? The heartfelt speech from the father-of-the-bride, the vows, the look in their eyes during the first dance. It’s because these are the real things. These are what the day comes down to. You can’t manufacture that. It’s natural, and it’s beautiful.

So when you’re panicking about everything in the lead up to the big day, I suggest taking a day away from the wedding. Forget all your deadlines and just go out with your partner for the day. Take a walk in a park, go for a nice meal, hold hands, look them in the eye and tell them you love them. Mean it. Do something you love. Lay in bed all day and do nothing, besides, perhaps, making love.

Take a moment to revisit your relationship and remember why you’re doing it. Take those moments and then imbue your wedding with those feelings. When you do that, everything will come into focus.

We’d love to hear from anyone that had a revelation about their wedding preparations taking over their lives. Comment below if, like me, your marriage turned you into a big gooey ball of cheesy love.

About the author

Paul Macklin

Paul is your friendly neighbourhood poet/cynic. He believes in story-telling, curiosity and peanut-butter sandwiches and he spends the vast majority of his time writing stuff. Paul learnt how to write stuff at Portsmouth University where he earned himself a Masters degree in writing stuff. Neat huh? Paul also hates writing in third person.


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