Getting the Gifts You Want for Your Wedding
There is a growing trend among modern marriages to ask for money rather than gifts. It makes sense, if you think about it. Long gone are the days when couples would move in together on their return from their honeymoon in Devon and find that they didn’t have a pot to… well, cook in.
Nowadays couples live together for an extended period of time before their marriage. They buy the stuff they need to live long before they even think about marriage. What modern couples are interested in is travel and the property ladder.
Buying a house is a ridiculously expensive venture and, if you’ve just spent a ton of money on a wedding, you’re further from a deposit than ever. Gifts of money can rectify that situation.
Alternatively some of us, ahem, use that cash to go traveling…
Getting to the Maldives
“This is the 21st Century, we’ve been living with each other for six years already, what the heck do we need a toaster and novelty knife set for?” – Grace Ames
Grace is about to get married to Kenny. Lord help him. She’s a brazen Irish lass and she doesn’t exactly beat around the bush. I asked her, ‘Do you want cash or gifts?’ She didn’t disappoint.
‘After six bloody years you’ve got everything you need to live. What do people think we’ve been doing for all this time? Laying around in cardboard boxes roasting mice on a makeshift fire in the middle of our living room, caught with our bare hands? We’ve both got good jobs. We’ve got the Le Creuset frying pans and an entire airing cupboard full of disgusting bed sheets from my mother in law – you don’t have to write that bit down – that we’ll never use. We’ve worked hard. We want a holiday or a deposit for a house. Gift cards for Debenhams won’t get us to the Maldives.’
It’s becoming a very popular option for young couples who feel that the property ladder is out of their reach and either enjoying a beautiful honeymoon or looking for work abroad is a better option.
But… I like presents
Of course the whole world isn’t in agreement with Grace. Some people need some help starting out with furniture – they might have been renting furnished homes, they might simply need a newer, better, super powered microwave.
And getting presents isn’t a bad thing. I mean, who doesn’t like presents (except Grace it seems)? As a guest, if you’re buying a present, it might be worth checking with the couple before you go shopping, because often couples have a secretive list that they keep hidden away.
Gifts or Cash?
But how, as a couple, do you ask for something like that? If you want cash, you can hardly print ‘CASH, NO GIFTS’ on the invitations. Who’s to say they were going to give you anything. Sure, guests should bring something, but they aren’t obliged. So what does Grace have to say about it?
‘Just tell them. There’s no point in waiting for the reception to come and then seeing mobs of your family all carrying microwave sized boxes. Just tell ‘em straight “Thanks but no thanks, we don’t need anything, if you really want to give us something, we’re saving to bugger off out of here and could use the cash. If not, it’s not a problem.” Why waste anyone’s time, especially your own, ignoring the pink elephant in the room?’
Of course, for those of you that aren’t quite as brusque as my friend Grace, such as me, you can write a little ditty on your invitation instead, explaining that – whilst presents would be appreciated, money would help your new adventure off to a great start. Whatever you decide, communication is the name of the game, talk to people and tell them your plans.
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