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The Best Man Diaries – Adam (2/6)

by | 29 June 2016 | Hen & Stag

This entry is part 2 of 6 in the series Best man diaries

A couple of weeks ago I went on my first stag do out of three this year. So naturally I took some notes to share with you, and, well, I’m the best man at the last one, so I’m stealing some ideas.

Let me introduce you quickly to our lead players –

First up, we have Adam. We have a tendency to call him Beard-Face. Any guesses why? He was our Stag and wedding-dress wearer for the weekend. Adam likes Star Wars and playing the XBox. He’s a pretty good sport unless it comes to sambuca shots apparently. I learnt this the hard way.

After our RIB charter. We didn’t hit any ice bergs.

And most importantly for us, we have Matt. Matt is Adam’s best man and he single-handedly organised the entire weekend for our enjoyment. He didn’t do a bad job either.

It’s not a stag if there aren’t any steins.


Matt did his due diligence. Before he spoke to us about anything he sat down and talked with Adam about what he wanted. Between them they set out a few guidelines by which Matt had to follow. After a quick chat, Matt knew who to invite and where to go – Southampton.

Matt’s next step was to research accommodation, activities and places to eat over the weekend. Once he’d identified a number of things to keep us busy over the weekend he was free to get in contact with us. Rather than giving us extensive lists of all the possibilities, he narrowed it down and straight up told us what we were doing for the weekend. Naturally we all threw money at him.

On the subject of money, though, it’s worth noting that Matt had a few issues with getting money out of people. This tends to be the case when you’re organising event for a group of people – there will always be one person that can’t follow deadlines. Matt was very patient, but the way I see it, you don’t really need to be.

Be ruthless. Tell people what you’re doing and when. Tell them how much and let them decide if that is worthwhile. Give them a deadline. Once that deadline has passed, you book the activities and accommodation for those that have paid. If anyone chooses to pay you after this date, you’ll have to see if you can still change your bookings, if not, they’ve missed out. Sometimes, I feel, you need to be strict.

The Weekend

We all managed to organise ourselves for long enough to get everyone down to Southampton in one piece. Once we were there, it was time to get on it.

An Indian

I’ve been on three stag weekends. All of them have included a curry on the opening night. I have to say it’s an excellent way to set the tone for the weekend. We all arrived in Southampton, the boys had a beer and then we headed to an Indian for a curry. It’s the first time everyone gets to sit around together and have a chat. It also means you get to line your stomach before heading out for the evening.


I don’t think I really need to elaborate on this too much. The boys like a beer.

On the first evening after the curry, we headed out to a few different pubs with no real direction. Eventually we headed on over to an interesting Hobbit-themed pub, which definitely made our drinking session significantly more memorable than if it had been in a Spoons.

A Day of Activities

When Matt sent out the email to everyone telling us that we were going to go on a RIB on the Solent, I didn’t really know what to expect. A boat ride? Wow, that sounds great, I thought. Turns out it was freaking awesome. I would highly recommend a RIB trip for any stag or hen group, it’s an excellent experience, if not a touch short.

Next up we enjoyed a traditional Stag activity in an nontraditional setting – Laser Tag. I’ve only ever been to laser tag events inside where it is dark and there is dry ice and lights that confuse me. I found I was much better at it out in the open air, in what is usually more of a paintball setting. This was a great way to experience paint-balling without returning home for your wedding covered in bruises (another stag I know made this exact mistake).

More Drink

After drinking the night before and a days’ worth of activities, you’d expect the second night to be slightly smaller in scale. Matt ensured that was not the case. The weekend we were in Southampton there was a German Beer Fest and it would have been rude not to get involved. I have to say, having a plan for at least one night of drinking is probably advisable, it’ll make it more memorable than just having another night out.


The boy did good. You might not have the time to have a whole weekend away, but if you do you could do worse than Matt. His weekend was jam-packed full of activities and, of course, drink.

Have you been on a stag do (or hen do) recently? If so I’d love to hear about where you’ve been and what you did in the comments below.

About the author

Paul Macklin

Paul is your friendly neighbourhood poet/cynic. He believes in story-telling, curiosity and peanut-butter sandwiches and he spends the vast majority of his time writing stuff. Paul learnt how to write stuff at Portsmouth University where he earned himself a Masters degree in writing stuff. Neat huh? Paul also hates writing in third person.


Hen & Stag The Best Man Diaries – Adam (2/6)